33 Years and Still Dating. This Valentine’s Day, Janet and I plan to go on a date for the evening. This will be our 33rd Valentine’s date and for us it is always a little extra special because it is also the anniversary of our first date. Although we do not plan to go to the drive-in movies like we did that night way back then, we do plan to do something that is just for the two of us.
But the truth is, we don’t just date on Valentine’s Day, our birthdays, or our wedding anniversary. No, we try to make dating a regular part of our life. We don’t get to go out to dinner once a week like some of our friends do, but we do go as often as we can.
And besides going out for dinner or a movie, we sometimes have date nights at home with a nice dinner and a movie. Then we also like to get away and just go riding around the country side. And when weather permits we like to go hiking or just walking through the neighborhood or on some nature trail.
Because the mistake I made during our years of marriage struggle was thinking that if I didn’t have money for a dinner date or weekend get away then I didn’t see any other way for us to get time alone. And by thinking that way I let our relationship get neglected and deteriorated. I honestly believe our marriage could have avoided a lot of trouble if I would have just made some simple efforts to keep our dating alive.
5 reasons for why dating is so important?
It can create the right environment for rekindling romance. —— Passion in marriage is very important. Of course it is not the only thing that is important. But passion is certainly an area in marriage that needs to be healthy and growing. And any lack of passion should never be excused as something that passes after you’re married a few years.
It can give opportunity for better communication. ——- Good communication requires trust and attention. The trust part is something you develop over time as you get more and more comfortable with being vulnerable with each other. But the attention part of communication can be there immediately by simply pulling away from all other distractions. That is why dating is good for communication, as long as you don’t let social media on your smart phones get in your way.
It can build a better friendship. ——– Friendship always involves common interest. So the more you have dating experiences that involves activities or other people the two of you can enjoy the better friendship you can build out of it.
It sends the right message to each other. ——– One of the critical areas of marriage that can be so easily overlooked is the area of making each other feel valuable. All of us have a need to feel like our life matters and what we do for others is noticed and appreciated. So when you take time to get yourself ready and to set aside important amounts of your time in order to be with your spouse, you are sending your spouse the message that they are important to you and that you appreciate the things they do.
It sends the right message to your children. ——- When you have children in the home it can be so tempting to always make your life revolve around them. It starts out that way right from the moment your children are born and before you know it your whole identity is wrapped up in being good parents. But too many people fail to realize that the best gift you can ever give your children is a healthy and strong marriage. So even if the children suffer some separation anxiety when you go out on dates, it will be good for them to know that your marriage is actually a very high priority to you.
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