I wrote an article awhile back called Why Marriage Restoration Should Not Be Your First Priority. I wrote that to express how knowing Jesus as Lord and Savior is far more important than overcoming marriage trouble. Because a few times I have dealt with someone wanting help to save their marriage. While at the same time they had no interest in knowing Jesus or allowing Jesus to help them. For them, their marriage restoration was more important than a relationship with God.
Then, recently I heard from a man who has been struggling to restore his marriage. He told me about his prayers and how he has been seeking God for answers. He said God has given him peace even though his situation hasn’t improved. And then he told me how someone else has accused him of putting his marriage first, instead of his relationship with God. Read more
I recently heard a minister on the radio say “no Spirit-filled couple has ever divorced.” When I heard that I had to stop for a minute to consider what he said. Then when I thought about what the scripture teaches I had to agree with him.
I’ll explain why this is true. But first I will clarify what this is not saying. This statement is not saying a Spirit-filled person will never go through a divorce. There are many people that have been through a divorce that gave their best to God and their marriage. The divorce was against their will. It happened because of what was wrong in their spouse’s heart. One person living a Spirit-filled life is not enough for a Spirit-filled marriage. It takes two to make this statement true. Read more
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Recently, I had the pleasure of seeing the Broadway production of Rodgers and Hammerstein’s Cinderella starring Keke Palmer and Nene Leakes. Although I love the Cinderella story and the play itself was astounding, it still caused me to reflect on the number of women I know personally and professionally who are still believing that they are going to be rescued by a handsome prince who will whisk them away to the land of happily ever after and make all of their dreams come true.
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Perhaps even more sadly are the number of women who have completely trashed the concept of Cinderella and the land of happily ever after and chosen instead to reside in the land of just enough, not enough, never enough and had enough.
The reality is that although many women from different “villages”, cultures, and backgrounds may share the common goal of finding and enjoying a healthy, meaningful relationship, many are discovering that “happily ever after” really does not exist…except in fairytales.
Is there anyone praying for you? When you’re going through the worst battle of your life, is there anyone who is helping you hold it together? When you’re seeking for some answers and you need to know the will of God. Who can you count on to take your situation before the Lord?
I mean it is great to have others around you who love you and are willing to give you advice. But what should matter the most is having people around you who are actually praying for you. Because at the end of the day, advice is good and is sometimes needed.
But there is nothing better than knowing you are not alone. Knowing there are other people who have your back. And they are faithfully sending out prayers to the Lord on your behalf.
It is one of those precious jewels that will stay with you for the rest of your life. When you look back at your most difficult days and you remember the ones who stood with you. The ones who were actually helping you make it because of the prayers they prayed.
Like right now as I write this, I’m choking back the tears as I think of someone who helped me. More than I can ever know, simply by bringing my life and marriage problem before God. My uncle Dan who passed away almost three years ago was that someone for me. I knew without a doubt he was praying for me throughout the marriage crisis I faced.
Many times I went to him to talk about what I was going through. I knew his advice and encouragement was sincere and unbiased. He was in his third marriage. And after two failed marriages
I don’t know exactly what you are going through right now, but it doesn’t take much for me to imagine myself in the same position many of you are in right now, the same place I was in many years ago. And when I do I can’t help but remember how much it meant for me to get before the Lord through worship and to just soak in His presence and allow His love to wash over me. It didn’t make my problems go away, but it certainly made it easier and in His presence I always found what I needed to keep believing there was hope for my situation.
So the message here in this post is simple. “He knows you, He is always there for you.” You can find anything you need when you enter into His presence.
I hope you enjoy this song as much as I do!
When you don’t know where you’re going, chances are you will never get there. Drifting along life’s currents and allowing the winds of circumstances to dictate your life gives you very little chance of doing anything significant in life. This is true for all of life as well as it is in marriage.
If you want to build a great marriage, you have to be intentional. If you want to restore a marriage that is broken, you have to do your part with purpose. If you want the dreams you have for your future to come true, you have to put deliberate actions in place to make things happen.
When I think of the countless men and women who are fighting to save their marriage, my heart breaks and my eyes fill with tears. I may not know who you are or exactly what your situation looks like, but I do know how it feels when you cry, “Oh God, I can’t do this on my own!”
The pain in your heart is deeper than words can convey and the waves of torment that floods your mind is too much to bear. You fight through rejection and confusion and there are times you simply want to give up, but you won’t. There are times you want to cave into anger and bitterness, but you know you can’t. And then there are times you just want to fall apart, but you don’t.
You fight, you stand, you hang on, because you believe in your marriage, because you love your spouse, because you love your family. Losing your spouse and family is not what you signed up for and you now find yourself going through HELL trying to keep your world from falling apart.
There are many of you who are in a very difficult place right now. Your marriage is in trouble and all you know to do is stand your ground and believe for the restoration of your marriage. You’re in one of the greatest challenges a person can face in life. And I know some of you ask yourself how much more you can take.
I want you to know Janet and I admire and appreciate every one of you facing this battle. It takes a lot of courage and conviction to take this stand. As many of you know I have been there, and I know too well how difficult it is.
Your story may be different that what I went through, but I still know the delicate balance you have to walk between heartache and hope. One minute your heart is so torn and broken you don’t think you can go any further, then the next minute your heart is so alive with the hope of your future as long as you can just hang on a little longer.
There is a war that goes on in marriage, but I believe way too many people misunderstand what the real war in marriage is all about.
I remember how offended I felt when someone I knew posted a statement on Facebook that said, “marriage is the only war where you sleep with the enemy.” For them it was meant to be a joke and so my response to them was a little too harsh because I wanted them to take their marriage more serious.