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When Love Feels Dead, Should The Marriage End

I understand why some think their marriage is over when the love they used to feel for their spouse now feels dead. After all, it seems ingrained in our thinking if something dies you must get rid of it and replace it.
A lot of people view love as something akin to planting a tree in the backyard. If it dies you dig it up and replace it with a new one. Or, when a pet dies and you replace it with a new one. We do the same with a lot of our relationships with other people as well. When friendships fade and die off, we look for new ones. When leaders or mentors lose their place in our lives, we find replacements.
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It’s no wonder we approach marriage with the same mindset as we do all these other relationships. The feelings of love can and often do fade. And there are times when those feelings can be outright flat lined, dead, completely gone. But does this mean the marriage has to be over?

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Love Is More Than A Feeling, It’s Also A Choice

On a previous post, I Want To Know What Love Is, I made the statement, “not one time does the bible refer to love as being something you feel.” But after saying that and reading some things in the word this week I had to go back and edited that line. It now reads, “Not one time does the bible refer to love as something you only feel.” The important change I made was adding only.

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I had to make that change because to be honest love is something we also feel. It is that thing inside us that causes us to say things like, “I love you and I want to marry you,” and “I have loved you for a very long time.” And when we do something that shows our love we explain, “I did it because I love you.”

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