This time of year it is easy to understand people can get really focused on certain things. If there is a gift you’re buying for Christmas, you may know everywhere it is sold and what kind of deal they have. The gift and the person you’re buying it for have your attention. In fact, it might have so much of your attention you could be considered a little obsessed with it.
I know that’s the way it was for me years ago when I wanted to buy a truck. There was a particular type of truck I liked. I wanted an older Ford truck somewhere from the mid to upper 70’s model. I like the classic look of those trucks. The only thing is, where do you go to find a truck like that?￼ Read more
You don’t have to settle for a marriage where you no longer feel passionate for each other. It doesn’t have to be that way. And you don’t have to dismiss a lack of passion in your marriage as something that passes with time. It is possible to keep the passion going for as long as you both shall live.
Janet and I are living proof that passion can be reborn in a marriage and it can be sustained for a lifetime. This week we will celebrate our thirty-first anniversary and we are probably more passionate for each other today than we ever have been, in spite of the fact that for many years we struggled to even like each other. And even if you have lost the passion you once had for each other, it is possible to Get Passion Back into Your Marriage.
Every marriage should have a good balance of partnership and friendship. It is difficult and there are many couples who fail at it everyday, but it is possible.
Marriage is the only relationship where we should have both partnership and friendship. Ordinarily in any other relationship it is considered unwise to mix the two. A business partnership that starts from friendship will usually hurt the friendship and a partnership that develops into friendship can hurt the partnership. Unless everyone understands the difference and they are able to balance the two properly.
On our last post How Are You Two Related, I started talking about how in every marriage we have different and unique ways of connecting with our spouse. And that the important thing was to find your connection points and work from your place of strength as you work to improve other ways to connect with each other.
On this post I want to start taking a look at how we relate to our spouse in three major categories; friendship, partnership, and lovers. As far as I can tell, any connection we have with our spouse will always fit into one or more of these areas. But the challenge we face is understanding how to move in and out of each area and how to find good balance of all three ways of connection.
“The kingdom of heaven is like a treasure hidden in the field, which a man found and hid again; and from joy over it he goes and sells all that he has and buys that field.” Matthew 13:44
There is a valuable truth that comes from this scripture. A truth that is eye-opening and very thought-provoking. Here is a principle Jesus used to teach about the Kingdom. And this same principle also applies to practically everything in our lives, including marriage.
Principle: For the value of the treasure we buy the whole field.
Look at the way gold or diamonds or any other precious commodity is brought to the surface. It comes when miners are willing to dig through a whole lot of dirt to get their treasure. To get the thing they want they have to deal with a whole lot of stuff they don’t want. Read more