Believing your marriage can be healed is tough sometimes. The separation between you and your spouse is so far apart it feels hopeless to close the gap. You can’t undo all the things that went wrong. You can’t undo your history. And so now you look at your situation and all you see is a mountain that feels impossible to climb.
I’ve been there and I know how it feels to want with all my heart to see my marriage healed. While at the same time I had to face a very tough situation that made what I was hoping for appear impossible. But the one thing that kept me from being overwhelmed and discouraged was I dared to believe God and what His word teaches me.
You see, I believe God has a completely different view of your situation than what you’re capable of seeing right now. Jesus made this same distinction between what we see and what God sees when He said these words.
So could it be that God wants you to look beyond your circumstances and what you feel is impossible and look to Him instead? Could it be that He wants you to put your belief in Him and not what you can see? Is it possible, God wants you to have faith that your marriage can be healed?
God’s word teaches us over and over again how important faith is to Him.
- The just shall live by faith and not by sight….(2 Corinthians 5:7)
- Without faith it is impossible to please God….(Hebrews 11:6)
- It was Abraham’s faith that was counted as righteousness before God…..(Romans 4:9)
Faith is a powerful thing. With faith, you can see the mountains of impossibilities become possible. But without faith, you are left with the tyranny of circumstances dictating everything around you.
With God, your marriage can be healed
Faith is not about believing God can save your marriage and then wondering if He will. As if for some reason God chooses to step in and save some marriages and then others He chooses to stand by and watch the destruction of a family take place. No, God by nature is a healer, restorer, and a redeemer. He would have to change who He is if He just picked to save some marriages while doing nothing to save others.
But even when God wants to save a marriage there is more to it than that. Because He will not force you or your spouse to go against your own will. He has given you the freedom to choose if you will listen to Him and obey His instructions. And He has given your spouse the same freedom. So if you or your spouse refuse to let God heal your marriage He will honor your freedom of choice.
So, why would you believe your marriage can be healed if your spouse’s will can stop it? Because the rewards for allowing God to stretch your faith and grow your character are far more than you can ever imagine. I firmly believe that no matter what happens, your choice to believe God in this situation is a Win, Win Proposition.
I know in my own testimony I was fully aware that my wive’s will could keep me from receiving what I was believing for. But I refused to let that stop me. I knew if I refused to take this stand of faith then our marriage restoration had zero chance. So I had to have faith. I had to believe.
Now, having faith for your marriage restoration will require you to make some major decisions. This will be a journey of decisions if you will. A journey where each decision builds on top of the previous one.
Make up your mind right now if you believe this is God’s will or not. There is no point in you wrestling with believing for your marriage restoration if you don’t know for sure if it is God’s will or not. The battle can be too tough and the journey can be too long for you to endure if you’re wavering on knowing if this fight of faith is His will or not.
His will is not that difficult to know. Search the scripture. His word is full of His instructions. Pray and ask Him what He wants you to do. God does not play a guessing game with you concerning His will. He wants you to know it and He wants you to follow it.
Eliminate impossible: Get that word out of your thinking and out of your vocabulary. I know there some situations that look much more difficult than others, but I don’t care how difficult it looks. I’ll say this over and over until you get sick of hearing it from me. Your circumstances have nothing to do with what you believe. Your belief should be based on who God is and how wondrous His works are and not what you see in front of you.
Remember, He is the one that brings dead things back to life. Creates new worlds out of nothing. Calls things that are not as though they were. And turns stony hearts into hearts of flesh. It’s not your place to tell God what He can’t do. Your only job is to say, “yes Lord, with You all things are possible.”
Choose who you listen to: The Bible teaches us “Faith comes by hearing, and hearing by the word of God.” To believe your marriage can be healed and “nothing is impossible for God,” then you must make wise decisions about who you’re listening to. You cannot, on one hand, try to believe what the Word says while on the other hand listen to the negative opinions of those who do not believe what you believe.
If you want to hold onto your faith in the midst of very trying circumstances you will have to Just Say No to Naysayers.
Thanks for reading this post. I hope this has encouraged you to believe for your marriage restoration. If you’d like, I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments.
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