It’s easy to find yourself in a fight with your spouse without knowing how to let it go. You know you don’t want to be fighting. But the thing you’re fighting over seems too important, so you believe you must stand your ground. When this happens you need to know there are times when you have to lose the battle to save what you love.
There is a story in the bible that I think sets a great example for couples to follow. It’s a story that demonstrates the wisdom of king Solomon and how he resolved the conflict of two women. Read more
I am grieved by the troubles in our world today. Everywhere we turn people are against one another. There are divisions over race, religious views, political views, social and economic status. And for many of us there is division in our own families. So I think everyone would agree, we need peacemakers.
I know this is a marriage blog and so I’m not trying to turn this into a current events article. But I believe some of the lessons we try to communicate to marriages, we can also apply to the world around us. After all, marriage is all about the journey of becoming united as one flesh. So why wouldn’t the same principles of unity work for our world around us? Read more
The challenges we face in life are tough sometimes. Challenges with our health, our job, our children, or our marriage are the type of challenges almost everyone will have to deal with at one point or another. But in every challenge we face we have to make a conscious decision. Will we choose to let the situation make us better, or will we let it make us bitter?
I’ve seen the importance of this choice time after time. Not only in my own life, but also in the lives of many others. And every time a person allows themselves to become bitter there is always a severe price that comes with making the wrong choice. Let me share a few examples. Read more
There is a wrong way and a right way of letting go of the things that hurt you. When someone does us wrong or has bad behavior that offends us, we will often say “I just let it go,” or “I don’t even let it bother me.” But often when we think we are letting go of something that hurts us, the truth is the offence actually still has some effect on us and could be damaging to our future.
So what is the wrong way and the right way of letting something go?
I’m sure many couples at some point say, “we need a fresh start,” with the hope to somehow erase their past mistakes and start over with each other. And sadly, some people will say they need a fresh start as they choice to leave their marriage and start brand new with someone else in effort of trying to erase the mistakes of the past.
But too many times men and women will lament over the past and wish they could erase all their mistakes as if their future is doomed with no hope because of their past. While doing so they overlook the opportunity they have to create a brand new future. Read more
Continuing our series on Getting That Stubborn Stain Out, this week we are taking the letter F from COFHE and we are talking about forgiveness. Forgiveness is something we all want to receive, but it is the giving part that gives us a struggle.
Forgiveness, both giving and receiving is an absolute necessity for a marriage to endure. The challenges of two imperfect people living out their life long commitment to each other would be impossible without it. We need to be prepared for the inevitable, our spouse is going to sin against us and we are going to be tempted to react. But instead of reacting against our spouse, we must choose to forgive, just as we have been forgiven.
Be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you. Read more