Twas the night before Thanksgiving when husband and wife were at it again. We were fighting up a storm, no thought of how it would end. Cutting words were flying with no reasoning in sight. We brought down our marriage using anger and spite. Then with one final blow I yelled “let’s just DIVORCE.” And when Janet quickly agreed, we knew we had no choice.
So that night before Thanksgiving was the end. The end of a long, difficult marriage. It was the last time of using angry words of divorce to hurt each other. That was the last time we would ever be so angry that we actually felt hate toward each other. It was all over.
The next day of Thanksgiving festivities was very difficult and painful as we kept our secret from all of our family. It was a day of sadness and very few feelings of thankfulness. And though at the time it seemed like the worst Thanksgiving we had ever had, little did we know we would one day see that day in a whole different way.
Now many years later we actually look back on that Thanksgiving day with great gratitude. Because we now realize it was on that day, the day after our darkest night, that our future together would begin brand new.
Although it took us a year and a half to work through all of our issues. And though during that year and a half there were times it looked like we would go through with the plan to divorce, still there was something new that had begun. All the years of bad marriage ended that night before Thanksgiving. And all of our future of treating each other with respect and caring began that Thanksgiving Day.
[dropshadowbox align=”none” effect=”lifted-both” width=”450px” height=”” background_color=”#ffffff” border_width=”1″ border_color=”#dddddd” ] “For who dares make light of small beginnings?” Zechariah 4:10[/dropshadowbox]
Just like it was for us on that Thanksgiving Day, it is sometimes hard to see a new beginning when it is actually happening. Sometimes you don’t know you have reached a turning point until there has been enough distance between the way it used to be and the way it is now.
So whatever you’re going through in your marriage, don’t overlook the day of small beginnings. Even great things start out small. A small idea, a small dream, a small hope, all have the potential to be something great. Keep your focus on the steps forward and don’t be so caught up on the steps back. Believe in the possibilities even when the circumstances scream impossible.
And remember this too; in order for something new to begin, what is old has to end. That old stuff that has been killing your marriage has to end. And then, even if it is a small beginning, your new marriage, your new beginning can begin.
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