Many of you who follow our blog are facing some of the hardest decisions you have ever had to make. Along with all the heartache you feel because of your broken marriage, you also have some agonizing questions that need to be answered.
Should you stand for a marriage that looks impossible to save? If so, how long should you stand? Or in your situation, is it God’s will for you to stand for your marriage at all? When the bible says “God hates divorce,” does that mean He will condemn you for not doing all you can to stop it from happening? And what if your marriage does end in divorce, is it wrong for you to remarry someday?
For people who love God and value the bible as the Word of God, the questions you are facing are very serious questions that cannot be taken lightly. You search the scripture for answers that apply to what you’re dealing with. And because you don’t want to get this wrong you seek out godly counsel to help you navigate your way through this. But still if you look hard enough you can find lots of people who love God and love the Word of God and yet they are divided over these questions.
Early this week I read an article on Sheila Wray Gregoire’s website To Love, Honor and Vacuum, called Reader Question: When Do I Give Up Trying to Get My Ex Back? I thought it was an excellent article. One that helps answer some of the same questions our readers are asking.
There is a wrong way and a right way of letting go of the things that hurt you. When someone does us wrong or has bad behavior that offends us, we will often say “I just let it go,” or “I don’t even let it bother me.” But often when we think we are letting go of something that hurts us, the truth is the offence actually still has some effect on us and could be damaging to our future.
So what is the wrong way and the right way of letting something go?
When you don’t know where you’re going, chances are you will never get there. Drifting along life’s currents and allowing the winds of circumstances to dictate your life gives you very little chance of doing anything significant in life. This is true for all of life as well as it is in marriage.
If you want to build a great marriage, you have to be intentional. If you want to restore a marriage that is broken, you have to do your part with purpose. If you want the dreams you have for your future to come true, you have to put deliberate actions in place to make things happen.
It was the sound of Heaven touching earth that for all eternity changed the relationship between Creator and creation. We that believe and trust our lives to the Lord Jesus Christ are forever redeemed because our Heavenly Father loved us so much that He gave His best Gift.
“For God so loved the world, that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him shall not perish, but have eternal life.”
So on this special occasion let’s remember to always give our appreciation and gratitude to the One who deserves all of our praise and thanksgiving.
When I think of the countless men and women who are fighting to save their marriage, my heart breaks and my eyes fill with tears. I may not know who you are or exactly what your situation looks like, but I do know how it feels when you cry, “Oh God, I can’t do this on my own!”
The pain in your heart is deeper than words can convey and the waves of torment that floods your mind is too much to bear. You fight through rejection and confusion and there are times you simply want to give up, but you won’t. There are times you want to cave into anger and bitterness, but you know you can’t. And then there are times you just want to fall apart, but you don’t.
You fight, you stand, you hang on, because you believe in your marriage, because you love your spouse, because you love your family. Losing your spouse and family is not what you signed up for and you now find yourself going through HELL trying to keep your world from falling apart.
Today,s guest post comes from John and Wendy of Marriage Rescue Associates.
If there’s one thing that most brides and grooms have in common on their wedding day, it’s that they’re filled with hope. Nobody willingly goes down the aisle thinking the relationship won’t last, and yet statistics show how common broken marriages can be. So what’s the secret to having a marriage that stands the test of time instead of a marriage that crumbles? What are some steps you can take now to move you and your spouse toward a long-lasting, happy life together? To help answer these questions — and to give your marriage better staying power — consider the four tips below for creating the kind of relationship that lasts.
There are many of you who are in a very difficult place right now. Your marriage is in trouble and all you know to do is stand your ground and believe for the restoration of your marriage. You’re in one of the greatest challenges a person can face in life. And I know some of you ask yourself how much more you can take.
I want you to know Janet and I admire and appreciate every one of you facing this battle. It takes a lot of courage and conviction to take this stand. As many of you know I have been there, and I know too well how difficult it is.
Your story may be different that what I went through, but I still know the delicate balance you have to walk between heartache and hope. One minute your heart is so torn and broken you don’t think you can go any further, then the next minute your heart is so alive with the hope of your future as long as you can just hang on a little longer.
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