Can Your Brightest Moments Come During Your Darkest Days

It is so tough to see anything good happening during the darkest hours of your life. But it is possible to have the best moments in your relationship with God even while you’re going through the worst battles life can throw at you.


As with most things I write here on this blog, I can make my point best with an example from my own life.

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When You’re the Only One Trying to Improve Your Marriage

Can one person make a difference in their marriage even when their spouse is not trying? My answer to that is a resounding, YES they absolutely can!


There is no question in my mind that even if only one spouse is trying, they alone can make a huge impact on their marriage and if only one person is trying there is still tremendous hope for the marriage.

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5 Reasons Why Dating is So Important

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33 Years and Still Dating. This Valentine’s Day, Janet and I plan to go on a date for the evening. This will be our 33rd Valentine’s date and for us it is always a little extra special because it is also the anniversary of our first date. Although we do not plan to go to the drive-in movies like we did that night way back then, we do plan to do something that is just for the two of us.

But the truth is, we don’t just date on Valentine’s Day, our birthdays, or our wedding anniversary. No, we try to make dating a regular part of our life. We don’t get to go out to dinner once a week like some of our friends do, but we do go as often as we can.

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How S-N-O-W Can Spell Love

I know snow can mean a lot of things to different people. Some people just don’t like the snow at all and some experience so much snow that it makes life miserable and even life threatening.

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But my wife can’t get enough snow. To her it just doesn’t get any better than to have a few inches of snow on the ground and snow hanging from the trees like a winter wonderland.

One of our favorite things to do when we lived in the mountains of North Carolina and when we were blessed with a good snow, was to bundle up and go for long walks in the snow. And without fail our walking always included lots of pictures. Not so much of us, just mostly of the beautiful landscapes.Picture 476

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Identity Issues Can Wreak Havoc on a Marriage

In the past, if you ask me, “what do you do for a living?” as most men will ask one another, you would have heard me say “I work as an auto mechanic.” But you would have never heard me say, “I am an auto mechanic.” Because what I do to make a living is not the sum total of who I am.


I am many things, I am complex.

First and most important, I am a child of God. Second, I am Janet’s husband. After that, I am Dad, father to my three children.

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Resurrected Marriage

Today’s guest post for “Stories of Redeemed Marriages” is from Ian & Megan from Manchester – England

Ian and MeganWe learnt the hard way that adultery doesn’t only happen in ‘bad’ marriages. We had what I, and everyone else believed to be a really good marriage: we were the lovey-dovey couple, we went to Church, and we even liked each other! We foolishly thought we didn’t need to set up boundaries because we believed that would never happen to us.

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Let His Kingdom Come

Today’s Word for Marriage

Matthew 6:10 “Your kingdom come. Your will be done, On earth as it is in heaven.”











One of the hardest things to do in a marriage is to keep doing the right thing even when you feel it is getting you nowhere. But here in this verse which is at the beginning of the Lord’s prayer there is a nugget of truth that I believe can help anyone who needs encouragement to keep pressing on.

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Is It Possible For Marriage To BE Perfect

This post is on “why I still believe in marriage” and is part of the Happy Wives Club Blog Tour which we are delighted to be a part of along with hundreds of inspiring bloggers. To learn more and join us, CLICK HERE!  


I have come to believe that I can truthfully say my marriage is perfect. Now I know that sounds like a very bold statement. And I know some may think that is a very naive statement. But please hear me out on this.1422245_37709115

There is one single reason I believe my marriage is perfect and I will give you that reason. But first let me tell you what I’m not saying.

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Secrets For a Great Marriage From a Former Unhappy Wife

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One of the hardest things I have had to come to terms with in my life is the fact that I spent nineteen years of my marriage being an unhappy wife when all along I could have been a very happy wife. I’ve had to mourn those wasted years. There gone now and there is nothing I can do to get them back. That’s why I am so thankful the Lord is redeeming that time for us.

Though if I could, I would go back and talk with my former self. Because there are some things I would like for her to know. There are some things I would like to say to her to encourage her and reassure her. So I would say…. Continue reading


Learning to Live by Good Decisions

872360_40700567It’s that time of year again. Time to start thinking about the new year and what we hope the future will hold. For some this time represents a time to start over brand new with visions, plans, and goals. For others it is a time to make resolutions to change something, either to stop doing something old, or to start doing something new. However we choose to approach the new year; with resolutions, vision, plans, or goal setting, there is always one thing in common. One thing that must take place is decisions have to be made. Continue reading